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Mama Guilt

Mama guilt. It’s the worst. I’m learning that it takes a significant amount of intentional thinking and some very deliberate actions to reject it. There are days when I feel this ridiculous guilt – completely misplaced, unconstructive guilt – for things like not going to parks every day or sewing with my five year old or for not doing more …

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Hold Me With Both Arms: My Story of Bringing Home a New Sibling

When my son was born I cried. The moment he arrived I loved him the way I loved his sister when I first held her nearly 4 years earlier. My daughter did remarkably well with the birth of her brother. She adored him. She held him and kissed him endlessly and tucked her stuffed animals in with him. I had …

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8 Things I’ve Learned in 4 Years of Bedsharing

1. It’s safe. When my oldest was born, we set up a crib right next to my side of the bed. I loved the idea of snuggling up together at night, but I wasn’t sure whether it was safe. I started poring over the research.

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Tongue Tie and Breastfeeding

My Story Two years ago we encountered a problem that we never foresaw. Tooth decay. In our two year old. It was only on his front two teeth.

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Why the Chores Can Wait

“Mama! Hey mama! Do you wanna play with me?” her 3 year old asks as she tugs on her mama’s pant legs. “In a minute sweetie. I need to finish these dishes.” “Mama! Mama! Chase me!” She says with excitement. “In a minute. I have to get this done.” “Mama! Mama!” she tugs on mama’s shirt. “Can I help?” “Maybe …

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Why Breastfeeding in Public is Important For Our Society

Before I had my first child, I’d never actually witnessed the act of breastfeeding. I myself was a purely formula-fed baby. My mom didn’t even attempt it with me. She’d struggled with breastfeeding my older sibling and stopped after two weeks. She felt as if she had no other choice. Maybe, if she had seen mothers out in public nursing, …

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Inconvenient Meltdowns – How To Stay Calm

We know that when our children lose it, really lose it, to the point where they have practically ZERO control over their emotions and are beyond distressed,  that they need our support and understanding. I find it relatively easy to stay calm and support our poppet during a huge meltdown when we’re at home and have the luxury of not …

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This is it: How I Became an Attachment Parent

My mum once told me she thinks parents today research too much. I respectfully disagreed with her. I don’t think most parents research enough. I read and research about parenting A LOT, more than anything else. After my daughter was born I realized this was going to be the most important job of my life. This. This is it.

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Trust Those Instincts, Mama

When our eldest daughter was born five years ago, I wish someone – anyone – had said to trust my instincts. To go with my heart. Instead, maternal health nurses, well meaning friends, family and random strangers, all had a zillion different pieces of advice. Overwhelming much?!  Exactly. Being a first time mum, a big part of me felt like …

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Is there another way?

When my daughter was born, she liked to be held. We spent her newborn days snuggling in bed. Eventually we would get up and snuggle on the couch. After a couple of months I learned how to wrap her so I could carry her around for walks and around the house. It was lovely, but it didn’t leave me much …