“That’s not very nice.” “It would be nice if you would do…” “It’s nice to compliment people.” 24 “Not sharing isn’t nice.” “It would be nice of you if you would work overtime for me this weekend.” Nice Nice Nice. Nice means to be pleasant or agreeable. Instead of saying “be nice,” how about we say …
8 Ways to Cope with the Stress of Parenting
Being a parent has so many positives. But with those positives comes a big dose of stress, chaos, and pressure. Parents have to sacrifice a lot more than they did pre-kid days like sleep, privacy, wants, and, a lot of times, needs. You might find that some crazy things come out of your mouth, as well. “Am I providing an …
Detachment Parenting: How Did We Stray So Far From Humanity
It can be a difficult task, discussing parenting methods and tactics. People are often passionate and even more so, defensive. I want to open this article up with the idea that this isn’t a slap on anyone’s wrist saying, “bad parent!” but rather a piece to make you think, to encourage you to research, and to not just go with …
Is Your Child a Perfectionist?
A perfectionist. “A person that refuses to accept any standard short of perfection.” Does this sound like your child? Or you? Perfectionism seems to be an applauded trait. Of course, employers and schools would like their people to take particular care with their work and always turn it in without any errors. But there is a dark side to this. Fear. …
You Know You’re An Attachment Parent When…
Attachment parenting is a way of life that promotes a secure parent-child attachment. It is a belief that children are people too, that punishments are worthless, and that makes parents question and research everything they ever do. People that practice attachment parenting focus on nurturing bonds through empathy and closeness. Not sure if you practice attachment parenting or …
From Gigs To Grocery Shopping Alone
Remember those pre kid things you did? The things that made you feel alive and free? I used to love sifting through op shops, going to gigs, travelling, and one of my all time favourites, drinking wine and eating chocolate while my housemates and I gave one another epic long massages. And I did them all without the slightest inkling …
How “Parent Meditating” Can Change Your Life
How can “parent meditating” change your life? What is parent meditation? Parent meditation is the simple act of completely focusing on your child in a specific moment; their essence; their features; their voice. It is the act of being fully present and aware of them in a completely evaluation and judgment-free zone. When you fully focus and fully appreciate …
Please Don’t Make Your Child Say “Sorry” To My Child
If your child hurts my child, please don’t insist they apologise. And absolutely do not ask them to “kiss her all better.” Little people push, hit, bite and lash out. This is completely natural and developmentally appropriate. Parents usually swoop in with embarrassed phrases like “tell ____ you’re sorry” or, even worse, “hug/kiss ____ all better”. No. Definitely not. I …
The quest for quality child care: The au pair program explained
As any working parent knows, finding the right child care is a daunting task. That goes double for attachment parents. We have spent countless hours holding our babies, wearing them, and sleeping next to them. We have nursed and rocked them for ages. We’ve researched diapers and baby-led weaning. We have set up yes environments. And now we are supposed …
How To Snap Out Of Snapping At Your Kids
This past week I’ve been struggling a lot. Struggling with balance, with taking care of my body (like eating because I’ve got too many other things that I want to do so I forget to eat), with taking my emotional temperature frequently, or with being distracted and detached from my kids. The biggest cause of snapping at my kids is distraction. …