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Is Your Child Afraid of Fireworks?

We sat in a mass of people blanketed over the sweeping lawn. Everyone staring up, ready to ooh and aww over the light show that was about to begin. Fourth of July fireworks never fail to disappoint. Then, without warning, we were under attack. People all around us started screaming and running. My partner and I scanned the crowd in …

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Dear Attachment Parent: How do I get my kid to stay in bed?

Dear Attachment Parent: My toddler just outgrew his crib. How do I get him to stay in his room if we get a toddler bed? Being separated from your caregivers and protectors before you are old enough to fend for yourself is scary to most young children. For most of human existence, it would have been a very dangerous thing. …

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Is Your Child a Perfectionist?

  A perfectionist. “A person that refuses to accept any standard short of perfection.” Does this sound like your child? Or you? Perfectionism seems to be an applauded trait. Of course, employers and schools would like their people to take particular care with their work and always turn it in without any errors. But there is a dark side to this. Fear. …

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How “Parent Meditating” Can Change Your Life

  How can “parent meditating” change your life? What is parent meditation? Parent meditation is the simple act of completely focusing on your child in a specific moment; their essence; their features; their voice. It is the act of being fully present and aware of them in a completely evaluation and judgment-free zone. When you fully focus and fully appreciate …

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When Kids Ask The Tough Questions

I was in 5th grade. I went to the movie theater with my mom. We watched Step Mom with Susan Sarandon. I don’t remember much of the movie except that she died from cancer. I remember leaving the theater in tears. “Mom, are you going to die? I don’t want you to die!” I was in 6th grade. The news …

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I’m Terrified of Bringing Home a Sibling

“What if big brother hates the baby?” “Should we transition sister to her own bed before baby comes?” “Is it a good idea to wean brother before baby arrives?” “I’m so nervous to leave sister to go to the hospital.” “What if he cries?” “What if she cries?” “WHAT IF THEY BOTH CRY AT THE SAME TIME?!”

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The Secret Key To Being A Happier Person and Parent

Meditation. Now don’t click away because you don’t have time for this nonsense. Bear with me. What have you got lose, really? What do you have to lose just giving it a try? So what is meditation exactly? To think deeply or focus one’s mind for a period of time as a method of relaxation. That’s it. In its most …

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The Chaos & The Calm and The Parenting In-Between

  “Go Play” “Not Right Now” “In A Minute” “Hurry Up” “Maybe Later” I’ve kind of sucked at parenting lately I think. It’s a busy time in our lives right now. We have been doing a lot of ‘adulting’ and my relationship with my daughter is suffering. It’s not without reason. We are about to move our family across an …

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The Difference Between “You’re Ok” and “Are You Ok?”

The Scenarios Just imagine for a second Husband: “Ow! I just stubbed my toe!” Wife: “Oh, you’re ok.” Friend: “I am so mad right now. I can’t believe I spilled ketchup on my brand new shirt!” Other Friend: “It’s ok. It’s just a shirt .” Wife: “I am so tired. I barely got any sleep last night.” Husband: “You’re Ok. …

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Children Are People Too

Why is that if an adult hits another adult, they could go to jail? If a husband hits a wife? A wife hits a husband? Jail. A person slaps another person in the face? Assault. A person hits a dog? Jail. Fines. But a grown adult hits a child? “Good for you. Kids these days need blah blah blah.” No. …